Where the day takes you
Heard from a good friend of mine tonight. "You did what you had to do to feel go about the path. You took a chance."
Okay, so it's paraphrasing. I guess in life, when you have done everything you can, there is no reason to look back with regret, or sadness.
Sometimes life pushes in a way that we didn't forsee going.
If you are up to bearing your soul, I urge you to place a comment. Make it anonymous if you must.
Where has life pushed you that you did not forsee going?
Okay, so it's paraphrasing. I guess in life, when you have done everything you can, there is no reason to look back with regret, or sadness.
Sometimes life pushes in a way that we didn't forsee going.
If you are up to bearing your soul, I urge you to place a comment. Make it anonymous if you must.
Where has life pushed you that you did not forsee going?
posted by TD at 1:04 AM
9 Comments:
Tom, dear, my whole life as an adult is filled with this kind of stuff. (You know cuz you read my musings!)
Looking back and wondering has served me nothing but misery. Looking back and admiring, that's another story.
Ask yourself this:
If you knew the outcome of any relationship, good or bad, beforehand, would you still go through with it?
Read ONE by Richard Bach.
You can't protect yourself from the unknown and it's unhealthy to regret. No one can predict the future (OK, maybe carnival gypsies, but they aren't always available) so you go with your gut or your head or your heart and just.... LIVE.
That's my $.02.
K, I can always count on you for a good comment, thanks.
I actually don't look back anymore. I used to and like you, it caused me nothing but pain.
You know what the funny part is in asking myself that question? I am not so sure I would have given my just-ended relationship a last chance if I knew going foward that this would have been the outcome.
I would have had the relationship though. It wasa good for me in many ways.
Living is what I am now doing. I love where I am and I love the people that I have in my life. I know that I have a great life ahead of me and that more love is comin' my way.
Do I wish things had turned out differently? Sure. I think that is just human. I'll be damned if I don't know that I did everything I could in this relationship to make it last and to make it good. I tried and can walk, the rest of my life, knowing that.
So the relationship was what Jaz and I were talking about (he was the anonymous quote). I posed the question in another manner though.
Life has a funny way of leading you to right where you need to be. It led me to Raleigh, led me away from NYC, led me to a better life without Heather, led me to a very close relationship with my former wife, led me to let freinds who didn't care about me fade out of my life.
That's how I posed the question. Where has life led you , that you fought going to, that turned out to be the best thing. For me, currently, the past relationship has been on my mind,and I was sad for the loss, but in reality, I know that life without her is much better for me, and vice versa.
Somtimes I just don't read the writing on the wall.
Life has pushed me in so many places I never anticipated going and I thank the Lord for that!! There have been times when I've been laid off of my job and I was crushed, but it only pushed me to search for new career paths and it was a blessing in disguise to where I work at today. I would have never applied for my current job if I hadn't lost a job that I loved, but obviously, didn't love me back. Same goes for romantic relationships...even when you really think that a certain person is so perfect for you and you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with him/her, if for some reason, they aren't thinking the same thing, even though they love you a ton, then it's just a rough patch that hurts like hell, but hopefully after some time, was the best thing that could have happened to both of you. I guess timing plays a real role in where life takes you.....
You know Linz, I hear ya. Loud and clear.
I guess everyone figures that I am smarting over breaking up with my wedding date and all. I really was talking about so many things here.
Life has, pushed me and pulled me in so many good ways. Coming to N.C. was the best move I have ever made. I went to Pittsburgh on a whim and met my wife. I quit working for one job in 1999 and happened upon a career.
As it goes for romantic relationships, I know life had been good to me that way.Though I was hurting last week, I actually feel so much better that it is great. I think that losing someone that you thought you were in love with often turns out to be the best thing. I know that I am better off today, than I was a week ab=go no matter how much I feel bad at times. I know that me and my wedding date are on better paths now.
I think the path is what it is all about.If you a steadfast, true, honest to yourself and others, and a loving caring person...good things are going to come your way. It just has to happen.
Give of yourself, love life completely and to thine own self be true.Then everything else falls into place. When you are there, all the other stuff doesn't matter, because you love you and who you are.
Very wise from a naked guy touching the finger of another naked guy, sitting on a fluffy white rug/cloud.
:)
We're all naked guys (or girls) K. If you look again, I am on the wrong side of that cloud to be very wise. Funny thing, Adam had relationship problems too.
Cloud, green carpet of grass, it's all the same to me!
Honey, we've ALL got relationship problems of one sort or another...
Hell yeah we do. Except for me of course. I don't have a relationship right now, not a romantic one at least, maybe later that will seem a problem. Right now it seems more like a breath of fresh air.
That banner still cracks me up though.
I really never thought that I could despise my sil as much as I do.
Post a Comment
<< Home